embrace the complexity

We live in times awash in simplicity and simple-minded thinking.

But life is not simple. Nor are the challenges and issues facing us all, yet our culture seems to thirst for the false dichotomy of simple answers to complex problems.

We seek the simple. We want simplicity.

Thus, I feel that everyone misses the point.

Simplicity isn’t and nor should it be the goal.

Complexity, whether we like it or not, is the point.

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someone else’s depiction of my depression

The following is a post written by someone I like to call a friend who I have known online for over 4 years now. Her piece is poignant and relevant, and I think worth re-blogging for others to read. Continue reading “someone else’s depiction of my depression”

Some wisdom from Stephen Fry …

(via Peter Samuelson on Vimeo)

There is a number of subjects he rambles across in this video, but to me it’s another view of looking at one’s life and re-assessing. I really want to share this for those who want to seek out their purpose and want some guidelines.

On the concept of ‘choosing’ to be happy

I have often, as I am sure many others have, heard someone make the comment that depression and happiness are a ‘choice’.

I always wanted to say something about this concept, but could never find the words … but I had a discussion today that helped me solidify this today, so I’m sharing.

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Dealing with the monsters inside the black pit

I think the worst advice I have ever heard anyone give someone who is dealing with depression is “just smile.”

If only it was that easy.

However, there is something to be said for that simple statement. However, first let’s look at some basics.

It is far too easy to be caught in one or all of three traps that the darkened mind offers when when one deals with depression. Together they provide an environment that fosters further darkness, loneliness and personal destruction. There’s three things you need to be aware of:

  1. Anxiety
  2. Isolation
  3. Raison d’etre Continue reading “Dealing with the monsters inside the black pit”

The process I undertook to determine my ikigai.

The concept of embracing life is supposedly clear enough. One embraces life if one values the people, experiences and even objects that constitute one’s life.

I think, in this sense, those of us who do not believe in an afterlife are more likely to be able to embrace life. However, those of us who do not believe in an afterlife are also far more likely to face that basic existential crisis. Doubly so, in fact as there is no Deity or theosophy to tell you that the taking your own life is wrong. Thus the weight of the seeking out “why?” and ask “where is the purpose?” weighs heavier on our minds.

I do not know if there is an answer. In all honesty, I can only assume we must, for our own sanity, come up with an answer that will suit ourselves.

We must discover a sense of purpose for ourselves.

This, as our Japanese brethren tell us, is our Ikigai (“ee-ki-guy”).

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Be warned: Don’t smile if you are depressed!

Funny how a small snippet can trigger off a stream of thought, isn’t it? This morning, as I am oft apt to do, I read the “odd-spot” in The Age newspaper. It read:

Monday November 23, 2009

A Canadian woman on long-term sick leave for major depression says she lost her benefits after her insurance agent found photos of her on Facebook in which she appeared to be having fun, including at a Chippendales bar show and on a holiday.

I sat there and thought to myself, “no – they couldn’t! Not based on one or two smiley photos!?”

See, funny thing is if this was a US incident, I’d be all like “yeah, well, what do you expect from the world’s most corrupted health system?” but it was in Quebec! Continue reading “Be warned: Don’t smile if you are depressed!”