My response to: Please tell me what women do wrong when she gives a blow job. What could she do to make it better?

I don’t think there is an easy answer to this one Rain, primarily for two reasons:
1. Most men don’t know why they like something, they just do (or don’t)
2. What each man likes will generally be different – and even when two men agree – they’d both like something slightly different
So, having said that, some general tips:
* A good tip is project your own genitalia as a guide – think of the head as the clit, the shaft as the inner labia, the scrotum as the outer labia … now, think about what you like on these areas – chances are replicating onto him will be successful
* Be gentle – treat it like an ice cream – not like some lint on the carpet and you the vacuum cleaner!
* Treat the whole area to attention – stroking, massaging, playing, whatever, but basically share the love with the entire region.
* Texturise! Lick, nibble (lips only!), stroke, kiss – and change the technique as well. Basically, you want to provide a number of sensations – but make the transitions smooth and natural, not a stop-start – and not every few seconds.
* Effective lick points. As I said, most girls forget about licking – it’s not surprising since most men expect that rhythmic head-bobbing sorta suck-fest – but it’s highly effective. Trace the lines and textures of the head, down the ridge of the shaft, the balls and even on each side of the exact point where the inside of his thigh meets the skin of his scrotum. A not so obvious point as well is the underside of the head where the ridge meets the head – a rhythmic licking with the flat of the tongue in this area becomes a startingly strong effect that builds up …
* Ball play: Depending on a variety of factors (including your comfort level) there’s many things that can be done in this are – from simple stroking to massaging, from licking to full ball sucking – with the latter though, don’t do it for too long as it tends to become tender in most men
* Hands: Use them – but not constantly or solely. Too many women give a hand job with a head suck. That’s not the art of it. Besides the obvious caressing, stroking and massaging of the body – hands can be used to stimulate a separate are from where you’re “currently focusing”, they can be also used to “extend your reach” when you’re not ready to go deeper.
* Speaking of which, most men want that “deep throat” feeling. Gagging is more a state of mind than anything. A simple way to “control” the reflex is to not try to stop the gagging, but ignore it. How? Simple – try this with your finger – put into the back of your throat, then just swallow. That’s it – turn the gag into a swallow – this works – I know, can tickle my own tonsils
* Same technique for swallowing. If you don’t try to catch it – use the above technique during the spurt, it’ll shoot down the back of your throat very quickly. This has an advantage of not sitting on your tongue, and thus not allowing you to (fully) taste it.
* Lubrication: either your own saliva or some flavored water based lube or there’s even special flavored “condiments” just for this act that are sold in “adult boutiques”.
* If your man is willing – prostate stimulation is a new height of experience – use your (heavily lubricated) index or ring finger to enter his anus – your “feeling” for a “bump” at (or near) the end of your reach. Once you found it, gently stimulate it in an up-down or circular fashion. Just one warning – do this towards the end of the act when they are ready to pop anyway – prostate stimulation can cause a man to come – sometimes even without a climax or orgasm – this can be very disconcerting to them.
* Unless he SPECIFICALLY asks for it – never use any of the following in your play : teeth, nails, or very hard sucking.
* I suppose the last thing is about safe sex – all of the above can be done with safe sex techniques (well, besides swallowing!) – a variety of manufacturers now sell ultra thin flavored condoms. However, if you like (and are prepared in advance) you can get a standard thin condom, unroll it, wash it with lukewarm water and mild soap (like those sold for sensitive skin) – rinse, dry and re-roll. This helps get rid of that rubbery latex taste.
Right, well, I think that’s all now.

Ah, just one last thing – men are visual creatures, so putting on a show while performing the act will definitly get him going. It could be as simple as staring into his eyes while licking … or as complicated as you like.
Of course if you need more info – the best people to ask are gay guys

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